Addiction
It's funny how perceptions differ...you might think the world of one person but he might be the symbol of absolute foolhardiness to someone else...which again, brings up a question that often baffles and teases me - do we like (or dislike) others for who they are or for how they make us feel?
Isn't it just the easiest thing to find signs of insecurity or pretension in others simply because, by default, it highlights our depth of character? Or conversely, don't we often like or keep ourselves surrounded by people who in some way or the other flatter us? I know I do...I mean, yeah, I do appreciate traits in others, especially certain values that are common with me...but would it be easy or even possible for me to feel the same if he or she exposed some weakness of mine...?
Like all 'social animals' I am an addict of praise too...maybe not in the most explicit of its forms but I am...I like to feel good about myself...in many subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) forms I am seeking it all the time...I am hungry for it...and if I can't find anyone else who sees the greatness is me, in my mind and perception I demean them because that automatically elevates me...I also realize that all this is fine except that I don't know the way out...it's a vicious circle...really, how am I supposed to not care about things or people if I so depend on them for my own perception of who I am?
So, I am trying to find a way out...not to leave right now but who knows, hopefully someday...
Isn't it just the easiest thing to find signs of insecurity or pretension in others simply because, by default, it highlights our depth of character? Or conversely, don't we often like or keep ourselves surrounded by people who in some way or the other flatter us? I know I do...I mean, yeah, I do appreciate traits in others, especially certain values that are common with me...but would it be easy or even possible for me to feel the same if he or she exposed some weakness of mine...?
Like all 'social animals' I am an addict of praise too...maybe not in the most explicit of its forms but I am...I like to feel good about myself...in many subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) forms I am seeking it all the time...I am hungry for it...and if I can't find anyone else who sees the greatness is me, in my mind and perception I demean them because that automatically elevates me...I also realize that all this is fine except that I don't know the way out...it's a vicious circle...really, how am I supposed to not care about things or people if I so depend on them for my own perception of who I am?
So, I am trying to find a way out...not to leave right now but who knows, hopefully someday...
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2 comments:
isn't how people make u feel a reflection.......usually......of how they are???
Thats a very interesting thought... I thought about it myself before, the thing about whether we like people for who they are or how they make us feel... I thought of this when I heard of people time and again say things like "I love him because he makes me feel so special".. and I'd wonder, if he doesnt make u feel special, would he be bad?!
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